Thanks for all the help you’ve been to me in helping me hook back into fusion again and for the time you sacrifice to everyone on here to make there viewing enjoyable and possible.I have one question though and then you shall be rid of me in a positive way.I hope you don’t mind me asking but I get quite a few young ladies from the Philippines contacting me and some are 10 or 15 years younger than myself. You probably know what I’m going to say next…. are they scammers or are they for real and are they really serious about a relationship or do they just want a way out of their country.Please forgive me for my ignorance and naivety but I have been in contact with a younger Philippine lass on here who I quite like and who I would like to take to the next level of friendship but I’m terrified that it is a scammer and I will be wasting my time and get hurt from it. Please could you shed some light on here about this situation if knowing anything that could make me feel a little easy about the situation.I feel bad having to ask this question in the first place, so would now value your vast wisdom and knowledge on the situation please?Many thanks again for your dedication on here and may God bless you for giving up your valuable time to me and many others.Your friend in Christ Jesus.
Hi there…I wrote this very quickly so sorry if it rambles or is garbled/spelling…there are a mix or reasons why people will contact those abroad. Some reasons will be less that noble but some can often be perfectly good, and I have seen marriages on both sides. Ascertaining their motives can be tricky but much less so when there is a large age gap. Many Asian ladies have a very romantic idea about marrying a western man – not a bad thing in itself – and the relationships work out. But some don’t. For some its for love and a family but for others its a passport. Lets be blunt this happens and we see it in the papers all the time.I would make sure you let your friends and family meet the person and advise you – often people besotted with beauty put the blinkers on and get taken for a ride – whereas it was obvious to outsiders all along. This happened to my brother recently with a girl he met on a non Christian site. She was 15 years younger, half British / Malaysian and he spent a fortune on holidays / houses for her – all for nothing. Unsurprisingly she was v attractive and when the time came she had enough of what she wanted and he was of no more use the relationship disintegrated.If someone was contact me and they were a lot younger – anything over 10 years then alarm bells would go for me. In that case it is possible that they are in fact looking for a better life or at least a life in the west (unknown to many of them they are probably better off where they are than to take on western values). And this can be tough for the guy when they decide they’ve had enough of a relationship and achieved their goal. These are not things I have heard about from fusion members – I have never had such a story but I reckon its possible.I have heard horror stories (not on fusion101 free Christian singles) of guys flying out to Philippines or other places in Asia – building houses and then the female ends up with legal control of it since foreigners cannot build houses I am told – and then obviously the next thing is a divorce.If I were you I would not pursue anyone there unless I was similar age give or take – and I had met the family and knew them well – been to their church met their pastors and friends etc. Also I do not believe in pre-nuptuals but since there are so many people in the world actively scamming others I think this is the one instance (foreign dating) where they are so far away – not understanding the language/culture etc – where I would sacrifice a little romance and make it clear that if you marry me you get nothing financially (as nicely as possible). How feasible that is I don’t know. In fact I would not give them any idea of my financial position – what I own etc (my brother vowed to do this next time).Its very tempting for an affluent man to act like a peacock with foreign ladies but in the end it attracts the wrong kind of person.Thats my take for now. You can run anyone past me if you like for a second opinion.Sorry I can’t give you a definitive answer as many people from Asia on fusion I know are genuine Christians.